Breakups and Cancer




It’s perilously easy to break up with a Cancer. Not because they’re disagreeable in any sense of the word – in reality Cancers are among the kindest and most caring people around – but simply because of their hard-to-predict moods. Ruled by the Moon, their emotional wellbeing is governed by the lunar phases, and woe betide you if you upset a Cancer of either gender at the wrong time of the month!

You won’t easily be able to tell when things have gone seriously wrong though, because Cancers aren't generally the sort to scream and shout. Most likely with a Cancer, you’ll just notice they’ve become a bit quiet and sulky, and by then the damage will probably already have been done. Once a Crab has retreated back into its shell, it’s hard to coax it out again.

What you need to understand is that Cancers are intensely protective people – not least of themselves. For this reason, at the first hint of a threat to their safety, they won’t take any chances, they’ll simply cut and run. Cancers' strong sense of intuition means they quickly pick up on others’ negative thoughts or intentions – the only trouble being they sometimes get it all wrong.

This gives Cancer a tendency to brood long and hard on imagined insults which – because of their notoriously long memories – they’re likely to note down in their little black book and hold against you for ages to come. The big difficulty you’re faced with when a Cancer has dumped you is discovering what has happened and why.

It’s hard to get back together with a Cancer after a breakup if they won’t tell you what you’ve done wrong. When Cancer people give you the silent treatment, it’s not necessarily that they’re trying to be difficult, just that they can’t explain logically what the matter is. With nothing to go on except their vague instinct, it’s not easy for Cancers to put their thoughts into words.


So what exactly makes a Cancer want to break up? Well, just about any kind of disregard for their feelings, which means it’s incredibly easy to step on this sign’s toes. Negative comments and personal criticisms – especially if they relate to a Cancer's home or family or give them any cause for worry about their personal security – are likely to be taken particularly badly. Best then to tread carefully around a Crab, if you want to avoid feeling its sharp claws.


Rebuilding a relationship with Cancer is a slow and painstaking process for which there aren’t really any quick fixes. Because they excel at caring for others’ needs, they expect to be nurtured in return. Let a Cancerian down on this one, and you’ll have to go right back to basics to regain their trust again.

To win back a Cancer ex, finding as many ways as you can think of to say ‘I love you’ makes for a good start! Suggestions include apologizing profusely over a bottle of wine or two, writing a slushy love letter, or buying them something beautiful for their home. The last resort? Burst into tears to get their sympathy, and swear you’ll die of a broken heart if they won’t take you back again.


• Be nice to their families, friends and animals - you'll be out if you can't fit in.
• Respect their sensitivity, take their feelings seriously and give them lots of emotional support.
• Never challenge their domestic authority - these guys need to rule the roost.