Breakups and Cancer


   


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BREAKUPS AND CANCER




WHY MIGHT YOU WANT TO BREAK UP WITH A CANCER?

In many cases it’s a Cancer’s hard to predict moods that’s the root cause of someone wanting to break up with them. Perhaps you’re tired of constantly walking on eggshells to cope with their emotional ups and downs. Perhaps you’ve finally had it with their tears and sulking.

Another key reason why you may want to break up with a Cancer is because you want to recapture your personal autonomy and independence. Most likely, they have looked after you better than anyone else you’ve ever met – but therein lies a potential problem. Cancers are often far too protective of their significant other, even to the point of totally smothering them. 


HOW SHOULD YOU GO ABOUT BREAKING UP WITH A CANCER?

Bearing in mind that Cancer is one of the most sensitive and emotionally needy of all the Star Signs, they’re likely to be badly hurt by a breakup not of their own choosing. So to minimize their pain and distress, it’s necessary at every stage to take their feelings into account. Announcing the news very gently is important, as is avoiding harsh accusations and blame calling. Resorting to that old adage ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ is the kindest way to break up with a Cancer, even if you know it’s untrue. 

WHAT SHOULD YOU EXPECT IF YOU BREAK UP WITH A CANCER?

Don’t ever imagine you can just tell a Cancerian it’s over and then be able to quickly move on without any lingering repercussions. Because Cancer is the most tenaciously clingy of all the Star Signs, they’ll try to hold onto the relationship for as long as – and in whatever way – they can. Because they’re also one of the most fiercely possessive Signs, they may continue to view you as still ‘belonging’ to them for a long while after you've broken up with them.


REASONS FOR A CANCER BREAKING UP WITH YOU

So what exactly makes a Cancer want to break up with you? Well, probably the fact that you’ve wounded their highly vulnerable feelings once too often. Due to their tendency to take everything personally, negative comments and criticisms which seem quite harmless to you can actually be devastatingly hurtful to Cancers. Both real and imagined insults will be noted down in their little black book and brooded on long and hard – until the day of reckoning.

Another reason why a Cancer might want to break up with you is that you’ve made them feel unsafe. Never forget that Cancers are intensely self-protective people (hence the Crab’s hard outer shell). For this reason, at the first hint of a major threat to their security, they won’t take any chances, they’ll simply cut and run. If you’ve been insufficiently supportive – whether emotionally or materially – and haven’t looked after them in the way they try to look after you, a Cancer may start searching for somebody more caring and decide to break up with you. 

Finally, an important but often underestimated cause of a Cancer breaking up with you is that you’ve been nasty about or in some way upset their family, in particular their mother or any kids they may have from a previous relationship. Bear in mind that when you’re with a Cancer, all their relatives come as part of the package. If the friction between yourself and them becomes too serious, a Cancer may actually end up choosing them over you. 

HOW A CANCER IS LIKELY TO BREAK UP WITH YOU

Is it for real, or just the product of one of their bad moods? A Cancer’s constant emotional ups and downs make it hard to know whether they genuinely intend to break up with you or they’re just in a huge huff.  Ruled by the Moon, this Star Sign’s emotional wellbeing is governed by the lunar phases, and woe betide you if you upset a Cancer of either gender at the wrong time of the month!

Knowing if – and why – a Cancer wants to break up with you is made much harder by their difficulty in putting their grievances into words. With nothing to go on except their gut instincts, a Cancer may find it hard to explain why the relationship isn’t working for them. They just have a strong and undeniable inner knowing that it’s all over.

If a Cancer breaks up with you, at least you can expect them to treat you with kindness and caring. Despite everything, they’ll want to ensure you’re still doing okay. They may even keep up their ‘mothering act’ by continuing to look after you in subtle little ways. If you share children, a Cancer will be particularly keen to maintain an amicable relationship with you in order to prioritize the kids' interests.


HOW TO WIN BACK A CANCER

Winning back a Cancer is a slow and painstaking process, the first step of which consists of finding out exactly what went wrong so that you can put it right again. But that probably won’t be easy. Once you’ve upset a Cancer and they’ve retreated into their shell, you’ll have a hard job coaxing them into opening up about the reasons why they broke up with you.

Sitting down quietly and having one or more ‘big conversations’ in the aftermath of a breakup works well as a way of winning back a Cancer, provided you’re ready to genuinely listen to, and empathize with, their hurts and grievances. Avoiding recriminations and taking the blame is vital (even if you don’t really believe you have anything to blame yourself for). Try apologizing over a bottle of wine or two and you’ll soon break down a Cancer's inhibitions and have them back in your arms again!

To win back a Cancer, bombard them with slushy love letters and find as many other ways as you can think of to say ‘I love you’, the more sentimental the better. If all else fails, burst into tears to get their sympathy and swear you’ll die of a broken heart if they won’t take you back again! 





THREE WAYS TO AVOID BREAKUPS WITH CANCER

• Be nice to their families, friends and animals - you'll be out if you can't fit in.
• Respect their sensitivity, take their feelings seriously and give them lots of emotional support.
• Never challenge their domestic authority - these guys need to rule the roost.