Breakups and Aquarius




Aquarians' ability to cut off from their feelings means that – unlike more ordinary mortals – however bad the situation, they rarely get angry and are usually able to look at things in an impersonal and logical way. All fine and good, but because Aquarians' detachment can make them seem rather cold and uncaring, it’s a major source of relationship breakups with people born under this sign.

Particularly challenging for more insecure types is Aquarius's seeming inability ever to get jealous. As the star sign least into possessiveness or power games, it’s happy to let you do your own thing without interfering. It's easy to interpret this, often quite wrongly, as lack of emotional commitment. Love and freedom go hand in hand for Aquarius. Rarely will an Aquarian lover try to 'own' you, and in turn you'll never be able to 'own' them.


If you dump an Aquarius, it will often be down to their need for personal freedom and the feeling that you never really come first in their life. If you're looking for a totally exclusive relationship where each of you spend most of your time with each other, Aquarius is probably the wrong choice for you. An Aquarian will never give up their vast social network for anyone - not even for you!

What you need to understand is that trying to tie down an Aquarian inevitably spells big trouble. Ruled by Uranus, the planet of liberty and experimentation, this isn’t a sign that can ever be pushed around or manipulated. Aquarians demand the space to be able to mix freely with all kinds of people when and where they like. Make the mistake of attempting to box them in or cut them off from their friends, and they're likely to head straight for the door. 

If an Aquarian has dumped you, it’s often because you’ve been acting too needy, making too many demands or looking for too much support. This, the most independent of the star signs, has little time for people who are constantly looking for a shoulder to cry on and have a tendency always to lean on others. To hold an Aquarian’s interest and stop them getting bored with you, you have to be prepared to be your own person and keep them intellectually amused. 

Another big turn-off for most Aquarians is any kind of bigotry and intolerance. If you come across as ignorant and prejudiced or try to set yourself up as superior to others, Aquarius will lose respect for you and enjoy putting you firmly in your place. This New Age star sign demands the highest standards from its friends and lovers: vanity, arrogance and any kind of dishonesty are pretty much unforgivable in its book.


Your best tactic for winning back an Aquarian ex is to play it cool and just let them go. Trying to hold onto an Aquarian is a sure way to drive them further away, while dramatics, recriminations and shabby actions will only arouse their contempt. The chances are that sooner or later they’ll come back to you or at the least stay friends. As the star sign most prone to sudden reversals, just when you’re least expecting it, you may find they’re ready to get back together again!


• Don't take their detachment too seriously - it doesn't mean they don't love you!
• Be allowing - give them lots of personal freedom and don't expect them to fit into a mould. 
• Never let things get boring - routine and monotony are the biggest deal-breakers for this sign.