The Scorpio Parent and their Children

* Scorpios are known for their all-or-nothing approach to life. So when it comes to parenting, they’ll either give it their total, full-on commitment, or they’ll give it a complete miss. Half-hearted or part-time Scorpio parents are very few and far between. More likely they will go to the other extreme and become so fixated on getting it right that they risk turning into control freaks, too scared to allow their children a little free rein.

* What makes a Scorpio parent really special is their high level of emotional intelligence which enables them to accurately understand what’s going on in their children’s hearts and minds even from a very early age. It’s impossible for a kid to pull the wool over their Scorpio parent’s eyes to get their own way, because their powerful psychic antennae will quickly home in on a youngster’s secrets and lies.

* A Scorpio parent’s steadfast nature makes them very reliable and consistent about keeping promises and implementing rules. If you’re a Scorpio, the good news is that you’re possibly the most loyal and eternally devoted of all parents, whose unbreakable bond with your children enables you to stand by them, come what may. Alongside all this of course, you don’t bend very readily, even when doing so would make everyone’s life much easier, including your own. Your inflexibility is your biggest potential weak point, which you will need to address by learning to be more willing to let go.

* The Scorpio mother believes in keeping a careful eye on her children, perhaps even to the point of micro-managing every aspect of their little lives. The risk here is that, especially as they get older, the kids will experience her as overly intrusive and interfering and will be held back from developing their own independence.

* The Scorpio father comes in two varieties. The first sets about gaining his children’s obedience by ruling them with an iron rod. The second has the wisdom to realize that playing the power card will only serve to make your children resent you and is the very worst way to try to win their love.

Learn about the relationship with your child by their Star Sign:
Aries Child | Taurus Child | Gemini Child | Cancer Child | Leo Child | Virgo Child | Libra Child
Scorpio Child | Sagittarius Child | Capricorn Child | Aquarius Child | Pisces Child

Scorpio Parent - Aries Child

* As the Scorpio parent of an Aries child, you have quite a challenge on your hands! Although in many ways the two of you are very different, what you do share in common is an exceptionally strong will and a fierce desire to get your own way.

* You’ll be so proud of your brave little Aries, and the spunky way they deal with challenging situations that would have most other kids running scared. Everyone can see they’ve inherited your strong warrior energy, but you’ll notice their fighting style is rather different to your own.

* When your Aries child wants something they go after it all guns blazing – and if they can’t get it they’ll scream the house down. Unlike you, they don’t know how to keep their powder dry and save their energy until it’s really needed. As a result they’re prone to premature burn-out, while you can keep going till the cows come home!

* If you’re the Scorpio mother of an Aries child, try always to be very direct and forthcoming in your relationship with them, just as they are with you. It’s a mistake to keep secrets from this supremely straightforward youngster and you’ll lose their trust and respect if you hide important stuff from them.  

* If you’re a Scorpio father, your job is to discourage your Aries child from blindly rushing in where angels fear to tread and teach them a few basic planning and strategy skills. That way you’ll help them to develop more sticking power – one of your finest qualities but one they’re badly lacking in. 
 

Scorpio Parent - Taurus Child

* As the Scorpio parent of a Taurus child, you share a particularly close, yet at the same time highly challenging relationship.

* Your Taurus child is a formidably solid little creature who has inherited your physical strength and your psychological toughness. You’ll be proud of the way, just like you, they battle their way through even the most daunting of difficulties, never complaining and never even contemplating giving up. Quitting is forbidden in this family! 

* Your stickability is one of your finest shared qualities, but it also has its downside. Both of you have a very stubborn side which makes it hard for you to easily make concessions in the event of disagreements or come to a reasonable compromise. When  your Taurus child locks horns with you, disengaging and walking away will call for a lot of positive willpower on your part.

* If you’re the Scorpio mother of a Taurus child, don’t try to over-complicate your relationship with this supremely grounded and straightforward child. Because they’re born under an Earth sign while you’re a highly sensitive Water sign, emotionally they’re a lot less complex than you. Probing too deeply into their feelings can be simply too much for this pragmatic little kid.

* If you’re the Scorpio father of a Taurus child, power struggles will be the order of the day until you give up trying to manipulate this single-minded youngster into following your ways. Instead leave them to do their own thing, in their own time and at their own (sometimes infuriatingly slow) pace.
 

Scorpio Parent - Gemini Child

* As the Scorpio parent of a Gemini child, you may observe that in a number of ways they are very different to you. However, when it comes to shrewdness of intellect, you’ll find this kid is definitely a chip off the old block!

* Both of you are unusually smart cookies, but while you base your judgments on your intuitive insights, your Gemini child takes a more logical approach by gathering all the relevant facts and figures. Your minds also work differently in that young Gemini is a multi-tasker, while you prefer to focus on one thing at a time.

* It may often worry you that your Gemini child hasn’t inherited your impressive concentration skills. But the key strength they possess which you may be lacking is flexibility. They can adapt more easily to changing circumstances than you, and if something or someone disappears from their life, they will find it a lot easier to let go and move on.

* If you’re the Scorpio mother of a Gemini child, you’ll admire their quick wit and clever come-backs. But when their irreverent humor is directed against you, your sensitive feelings will take quite a pounding. Overcome your instinctive desire to hit back at them and instead teach them that not everyone is as thick skinned as they are.

* If you’re a Scorpio father, you’ll learn early on that a controlling style of parenting only brings out the worst in this freedom loving kid. No matter how forcefully you try to lay down the law, they’ll always find an ingenious way of getting round the rules!
 

Scorpio Parent - Cancer Child

* As the Scorpio parent of a Cancer child, you should enjoy a very loving and close-knit relationship with them, based on strong empathy and an ability to relate to their insecurities like no-one else can.

* If you’re a Scorpio mother you’re the rock your emotionally vulnerable little Cancerian needs to lean on to feel more self-confident and secure. You’re the caring confidant they know they can share their secret fears and hurts with, without being made to feel weak or stupid. You’re the bottomless well of strength they can draw from to help them face the world more courageously.

* Be careful though, not to allow your little Crab to become too dependent on your protection and resist the urge to fight their battles on their behalf because you believe they can’t stand up for themselves. They may not have inherited your warrior energy, but that doesn’t mean they can’t learn to copy it by following your example. 

* To help prevent them being bullied or taken advantage of, train your Cancer child to stop wearing their heart so much on their sleeve and play their cards closer to their chest, like you do. Developing some of your famous emotional self-control won’t do them any harm.
 
 * As a Scorpio parent, your role is to help your Cancer child to be a little less timid and a little more adventurous. But in so doing don’t push them too hard out of their comfort zone and never forget that challenging situations you actually thrive on can be extremely scary for them.
 

Scorpio Parent - Leo Child

* As the Scorpio parent of a Leo child, be prepared for rather a bumpy ride! Avoiding head-on clashes with this strong-willed youngster should be your main priority because they’re incredibly damaging to the wellbeing of your relationship.

* A wonderful quality you’ve passed onto your Leo child is your outstanding loyalty. Your devotion to your little Lion, and theirs to you, won’t falter unless you make the unforgivable mistake of breaking each other’s trust. Betrayal isn’t something either of you can easily forgive.

* Like you, your Leo child isn’t a quitter! Whether it’s a belief, a goal or a relationship, your Leo child has inherited your willingness to stick with it come what may. Of course that also means they can’t easily let go, even when it’s obviously not in their best interests. Senseless obstinacy is your mutual weak point. 

* If you’re the Scorpio mother of a Leo child, you’ll have a hard time persuading your Leo child to do what you say because in their eyes they always know best. In turn they’ll find getting you to give in to their demands all but impossible since you’re determined to stay in control. Because neither of you will budge once you’ve taken a stand, avoid getting into deadlock situations by remaining open-minded and adaptable. 

* If you’re a Scorpio father, your clear-sightedness makes you only too aware of your Leo child’s susceptibility to unwarranted conceit and arrogance. But if you’re too brutally honest in your attempts to bring them down a peg or two, they’ll remember your cruel words forever.
 

Scorpio Parent - Virgo Child

* As the Scorpio parent of a Virgo child, you make an exceptionally smart and high-achieving family team, but your weak point is that you’re both likely to be rather obsessive.

* Exceptionally high standards and an intensely analytical mind are the key traits you have passed on to your Virgo child. Not surprisingly, in your efforts always to be the best, you can also both get rather overly one-track-minded and fixated.
 
* But the main difference between you is that while you’re just as much of a perfectionist as your little Virgo, you don’t worry like they do about getting things wrong or being judged as not good enough. Since your self-belief is far greater than theirs, you know you have everything it takes to overcome all the obstacles in your path. Instilling your Virgo child with some of your outstanding confidence is one of the best ways you can help them.

* If you’re the Scorpio mother of a Virgo child, you make a great counsellor for this anxiety-prone youngster. Although psychologically you’re much steadier than them, your Water sign sensitivity allows you to empathize with what makes them so uptight and know just what to say to calm their fragile nerves.

* If you’re a Scorpio father, you’re a very driven and hard working role model for your kids. But your Virgo child doesn’t actually need any further encouragement along these lines since they’re already their own toughest taskmaster. What they really need from you is training in how to relax, de-stress and stop being way too intense. Perhaps you’d benefit from some of that too!
 

Scorpio Parent - Libra Child

* As the Scorpio parent of a Libra child, in some ways the two of you may seem miles apart. But as the years go by, your ability to talk to each other in a far more intimate and wide-ranging way than many other parent-child combos will draw you much closer together.

* There are, of course, some key differences between you and your Virgo child. Most importantly, they’ve been born with a much more relaxed and easygoing, shall we even say lazy, approach to life. 

* Certainly, they’re not as driven or obsessive as you, mainly because they’re too indecisive to ever know what they really want! While you’re someone who often enjoys going to extremes, your Libra child prefers to walk the middle road. 

* If you’re the Scorpio mother of a Libra child, you’ll soon realize their personality is rather weaker than your own. Sometimes you’ll feel they give in too quickly and are too easily dissuaded from their point of view – and it’s true that they haven’t inherited your strength of will. Teaching them to say ‘no’ when necessary, and really mean it, will help to prevent them getting bullied or pushed around. 

* If you’re a Scorpio father, your Libra child’s procrastinating ways are likely to get on your nerves at times. For sure, they need a push in life, and you’re the right person to provide it. Be careful though, not to treat them too severely. Harsh words, even when kindly meant, are deeply wounding to this gentle little soul.
 

Scorpio Parent - Scorpio Child

* As the Scorpio parent of a Scorpio child, yours is a deeply attached and unusually intense relationship which will probably go through many ups and downs over the course of time.

* Because your Scorpio child has inherited your extreme sensitivity – and a cruel tongue which lashes out whenever it’s been wounded – it’s incredibly easy for the two of you to hurt each other. Because you know from personal experience just how deep this kid’s feelings run, try never to intentionally injure them. 

* Despite their mutual loyalty and devotion, the truth is that a Scorpio parent and child will always have a kind of love-hate relationship. Throughout their lives one minute they’ll be each other’s best friend and the next each other’s worst enemy!  

* If you’re the Scorpio mother of a Scorpio child, you’ll recognize many of your own emotional insecurities in them. Jealousy can be just as much of a problem for your Scorpio child as it has been for you. But by encouraging them to open up about their fears and resentments, rather than holding them in, you’ll help take the sting out of their negative feelings.  

* If you’re a Scorpio father of a Scorpio child, relinquishing the need for control is a life challenge for both of you. Whenever you find yourself engaged in a battle of wills with this headstrong youngster, set them a good example of how to step back and let go in the interests of loving cooperation. You’ll never allow anyone to push you around, so don’t make the mistake of trying to bully this fiercely independent youngster.
 

Scorpio Parent - Sagittarius Child

* As the Scorpio parent of a Sagittarius child, you’ll find this youngster is so different to yourself, you sometimes think they’re from another planet! But that doesn’t mean you can’t have a very good parent-child relationship, provided you handle it right.

* Let’s start with something your Sagittarius child has inherited from you, which is their avid dislike for posers, cheats and liars. Like you, when this youngster is confronted with any kind of dishonesty or hypocrisy, they can be very bluntly and cruelly outspoken. Problems only arise when you turn your outspokenness against each other.

* But at the same time there’s an openness and transparency about your little Sagittarius which they certainly haven’t acquired from you. Sometimes you wish they would play their cards closer to their chest, like you do. But caution and self control aren’t in their nature since for them life is all about freedom of self-expression.

* If you’re the Scorpio mother of a little Sagittarius, forging the strong bond with your child you consider so important may require some effort on your part. Try not to be too serious or intense in your interactions with them. They will love you much more when you make them laugh and don’t make too many emotional demands of them.

* If you’re the play-it-safe Scorpio father of a risk-loving Sagittarius child, taming this wild child’s strong gambling instincts won’t be easy. It will be even harder still if you’re too authoritarian and try to control them by striking fear into them. Because a little Sagittarian fears nobody, not even their Scorpio daddy, you’ll only make them even more rebellious.

Scorpio Parent - Capricorn Child

* As the Scorpio parent of a Capricorn child, you make an exceptionally smart and high-achieving family combo, but your weak point is that you both tend to take life rather too seriously.

* Your Capricorn child has inherited your ambitiousness, and with it your driven, hard working personality. The good news is you won’t have to put any pressure on them to apply themselves in life. Worldly success is so important to this aspiring youngster, they’re their own hardest taskmaster. 

* What they actually need most from you is encouragement to allow themselves more fun and downtime. But that won’t come easily if you’re too intense in your parenting and you’re over-invested in your kids’ achievements. If you make winning seem too important, they will never learn how to relax and ‘just be’. 

* If you’re the Scorpio mother of a Capricorn child, the vital thing to bear in mind is that they’re a pragmatic little Earth sign, while you’re a much more emotionally switched on Water sign. Don’t try to force them into expressing their feelings and their affection in the way you would like them to. The best way to win this kid’s love is by respecting their privacy and avoiding being too intrusive. That’s something you too would appreciate in their place.

* If you’re a Scorpio father, the greatest gift you can offer your Capricorn child is to provide them with a strong and stable home base from which to go forth and climb the heights in life. Security is just as important to them as it is to you.

Scorpio Parent - Aquarius Child

* As the Scorpio parent of an Aquarius child, you face the classic challenge of your two Star Signs in that you tend to be quite a controlling kind of person, while this is a youngster who desperately wants to be free.

* An Aquarius child instinctively knows they don’t ‘belong’ to their parents and are only on loan to them for a short while. For this reason don’t behave too possessively towards this independent kid or eventually you’ll drive them away.

* Power struggles are the chief source of conflict between Scorpio parents and Aquarius children, especially during their teenage years. So think very carefully about how you will exert your authority in this relationship, Scorpio. Over-playing your power card will only make your little Aquarius rebel all the longer and the harder.

* Because you’re a Water sign while your Aquarius child is an Air sign, you’re wired to look at life from an emotional standpoint, while they’re guided more by their head. You rely on your intuition when making decisions, but they prefer to look only at the cold facts. Sometimes they’re too logical for your liking, while in their eyes you can be overly suspicious and perhaps a bit paranoid at times.

* If you’re the Scorpio mother of an Aquarius child, your bond with this youngster will be strong one, since both of you are very steadfast in your affections. But it may not be a warmly emotional one, at least on their side. Because little Aquarians detest smother love, they prefer not to get too close to anyone, even their mothers!

Scorpio Parent - Pisces Child

* As the Scorpio parent of a Pisces child, you should enjoy a very loving and close-knit relationship, based on your ability to relate to this youngster’s extreme sensitivity in a way few others can.

* Although both of you are wired to respond emotionally to life, your Pisces child hasn’t inherited your tough inner core. Unlike you, they’re not very good at keeping their vulnerable feelings under control. Standing up to aggressors is also much harder for them since they weren’t born with your strong warrior spirit. 

* Training your Pisces child to develop more grit and backbone will represent a key part of your parenting role. But be careful never to imply they’re weak or ineffective: your job is to build up their fragile self-esteem, not to tear it down. Fortunately you have the right kind of empathy and understanding to do just that.

* Pisces kids hate to be pinned down and often have a problem with truthfulness, which is exacerbated by a nosey Scorpio mother’s desire to know every single little detail about their life. If you don’t want your little Fish to feel the need to hide things from you, allow them the same kind of privacy that has always been important to you.

* If you’re the Scorpio father of a Pisces child, your main focus will be on preparing this sweet natured kid to cope with the harsh realities of life without becoming disheartened or getting unfairly taken advantage of. But don’t be tempted into fighting all their battles on their behalf: they have to learn to manage on their own.