Dealing With Rejection - How to Cope!



They say it’s character building – in a perverse kind of way – and it's true that the more often we have to handle it, the stronger and more resilient we become. For those who face regular 'auditions' in their work, rejection isn’t a particularly big deal. But when we’re not used to it, being told we’re not wanted can feel like a massive slap round the face.


You Can't Please All the People All the Time

The bad news is that – whether we like it or not – ongoing rejection is a fact of life of the internet dating scene. You can’t please all of the people all of the time, and none more so than when you’re looking for love on-line.


With everyone searching for the ‘perfect match’, the odds are that we’ll only win over a tiny percentage of the people we’d like to go out with – and that a large proportion of our first dates will fail. The end result is that we’re all having to deal with an ever increasing number of rebuffs.


It helps a lot if we can avoid taking rejection personally. There are endless reasons for someone turning us down, of which we generally know nothing. What’s important to keep in mind, however, is that none of them are likely to have anything to do with us. If the chemistry isn’t there, there’s no magic formula for igniting it. If the dynamics are wrong, there’s no quick way of making them right.

Risk Reduction Strategies

We can minimize the risk of a rebuff by doing some careful astrological research ahead of meeting up with potential dates. Rather than just trusting to luck, it’s a good starting point only to choose people with whom the stars suggest we can expect a reasonably high level of compatibility. Something that’s impossible to tell merely from email exchanges, it considerably reduces our chances of scoring a dud. You can check out your compatibility with a potential date HERE!

The less we know about what we’re letting ourselves in for, the greater our vulnerability. The more we can find out in advance about who we’re dating, the more we’re in control. Familiarizing ourselves with the information contained in their horoscope gives us a much better take on the kind of person they really are (as opposed to who they want us to think they are) than simply wading in blind.

Getting the Stars on Your Side

Because timing is everything, especially where love is concerned, picking the right day for that crucial first meeting can also make a big difference to our prospects of success. It’s difficult to over-emphasize the importance of having the stars on our side when we’re planning a special occasion. Sceptics who find this hard to believe are often surprised when they put it to the test. Find your best days for love on your Astrological Love Calendar!

But what to do if, despite all our best efforts, we still get dumped out of the blue? Well, in that case, there’s not much choice other than to take it on the chin (even astrologers sometimes have to admit there are certain things in life over which we have no power!). Then get set to bounce back fast.  

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Written In The Stars Report