Romantic threesomes are the stuff of many a steamy erotic fantasy! But in reality, the practical and emotional complexities of conducting two sexual relationships simultaneously can be very stressful. Love triangles may be good fun (for the initiator at least) and a big turn-on. But they’re also risky, painful and a lot of hard work.
How do you handle a triangular dating dilemma?
Nonetheless, as shown by their prevalence in film and literature, romantic triangles are far more commonplace than one might at first suspect. Nearly all of us have been, or will be, involved in some way in a romantic threesome at some point in our lives. When looking for a new partner, it’s only too easy to find ourselves dating (or even sexually involved with) two people at the same time while we’re – quite reasonably – considering our options.
Because the first and foremost rule of dating is never to discuss our other love interests with our new date, neither they – nor we – will find it easy to know whether there’s also somebody else on the scene. Unwittingly, and without really intending to, we can end up part of a complicated dating triangle which leaves us feeling somewhat disingenuous.
How do you handle a triangular dating dilemma without compromising your integrity or shooting yourself in the foot? Openly admit you’re seeing two people and you risk putting off both your new dates for good. Cover it up with a web of deceit, and when you’re found out, neither may ever trust you again, leaving you with nobody. To be a successful ‘triangular dater’, you’ll need to be clever, tough and exceptionally good at ducking and diving.
Are you emotionally robust enough?
Handling a love threesome will inevitably be easier for some of us than others. If your Sun falls in an emotionally detached, freewheeling sign like Aquarius, Gemini or Sagittarius, you may be relatively more comfortable with ‘open’ relationships and less affected by the insecurities love triangles involve. If you’re an ambivalent Libran, you’re probably used to juggling two or more flirtations at once, while ‘slippery’ Pisceans are generally quite good at covering their romantic tracks.
More jealous signs like Scorpio, Taurus and Leo and Aries can have a hard time coming to terms with sharing a boyfriend/girlfriend with somebody else, even in the short term. These star signs should think twice before entering into, or getting caught up in, any kind of a three-way relationship, as should anyone else who isn’t particularly emotionally tough and robust. If it’s not you who ends up getting hurt, you will at least have to face the guilt and remorse of having broken somebody else’s heart.
Can you love more than one person at the same time?
If you’re part of a romantic triangle, it’s usually because you genuinely believe you’ve fallen – or are falling – equally in love with two people and can’t make your mind up between them. Because every relationship is totally unique, in reality it’s unlikely your feelings for both people will be of exactly the same strength or nature or that both liaisons will be equally beneficial for you. But when you’re blinded by the euphoria of romantic infatuation, seeing things clearly doesn’t come easily.
The truth is that evaluating your feelings and weighing up the pros and cons of two different relationships is far from easy. Friends and family can’t really help as their opinions are often heavily biased as a result of personal experiences and prejudices. What’s needed is an objective analysis tool that will show you the comparative strengths of each potential partnership, allowing you to make a dispassionate decision as to which is likely to be best for you in the long term.
AstroReveal’s Premium Personalized Feature, ‘Torn Between Two Lovers’, allows you to effectively contrast and compare any two relationships of your choice. Easy to read bar graphs – calculated on the basis of a detailed analysis of hundreds of birth chart compatibility variables – throw light on the six most important criteria for successful relationships, enabling you to make the right choice for your needs.
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