As a young Cancerian, given anything in life that she could have wished for, a happy family would probably have been top of Lady Diana Spencer’s list of must-haves. In her childhood it had cruelly eluded her: her mother walked out when she was just six years of age – perhaps the worst possible blow for a little Crab – and her relationship with her new step-mother turned out to be very strained.
Despite this, she resolved to create for herself the stable home life she so yearned for, informing her nanny that she would only marry for love and that, unlike her parents, she intended never to divorce. Sadly, fate was to decree otherwise, pushing her into a relationship that, for reasons totally outside her control, was doomed from the start to fail.
An Emotionally Needy Couple
The truth was that Charles was entirely the wrong person to give her the love she craved. Okay, as a Scorpio, his Sun Sign was well matched with Diana’s. But, like her, he too was emotionally needy: never having been close to his own mother, Queen Elizabeth – her Rising Sign, Capricorn, is the most undemonstrative and guarded of all the signs – he was inept at expressing his feelings and had little understanding of women.
What Charles needed in a partner was a surrogate mother – someone to provide the warmth and caring he had missed out on as a child, someone with a bit of experience and maturity whom he could turn to for support. Someone such as woman-of-the-world, Camilla Shand – like Diana, born under the strongly nurturing sign of Cancer – whom he had met and fallen madly in love with when he was just twenty two years of age.
Love or Duty?
Love, however, wasn’t permitted to figure high on Charles’s list of priorities when it came to finding a wife. Like many an English aristocrat before him, he was expected to wed for duty. The big problem with Camilla was that she was considered by his family to be unsuitable because she had a ‘past’. The match eventually set up for Charles by his maternal grandmother was with the appropriately virginal and obedient Lady Diana.
For a born romantic like Charles, an arranged marriage to a woman he wasn’t truly in love with presented a huge dilemma. With a powerful Venus/Neptune conjunction – the astrological symbol of idealized love – dominating his birth chart, a loveless existence was unthinkable.
Even if it involved lies and betrayal, another classic manifestation of Venus/Neptune, he couldn’t live without a woman to idolize. And that woman of course was Camilla, who – by now married to her long-time admirer, Andrew Parker-Bowles – was subsequently to become his mistress and eventually his second wife.
Three People in the Marriage
The implications for Diana were tragic. She had hoped for a happy-ever-after ending, just like in her step-grandmother, Barabara Cartland’s, famous stories of romance. But by the time she discovered the truth about her ‘fairytale’ marriage, it was already far too late. It wasn’t until her honeymoon, when she saw the two intertwined ‘C’s on Charles’s cufflinks, that she realized there were ‘three people in the marriage’, as she later put it – and the third was Camilla Parker-Bowles.
There was nothing unusual, of course, about the Prince of Wales having a mistress: every single one before him in history had done just that, and ironically his great great grandfather and Camillas’ great grandmother had themselves had a long-term extra-marital affair. This kind of arrangement was entirely acceptable to the royal family – but for the emotionally fragile Diana, it was simply too much to bear.
With her volatile emotional make-up – a tight T-square configuration in her birth chart between the Moon, Venus and erratic Uranus – she had a marked tendency towards moodiness and instability when under psychological pressure. But her classic ‘cries for help’ – expressed in the form of outbursts, bulimia and self-harming – fell on deaf ears among the British royals, whose ‘stiff upper lip’ mentality demanded that personal feelings always be kept under strict control.
Pity About All the Heartbreak
Charles, too, had no idea whatsoever how to respond to his young wife’s breakdown. In theory, his powerful Scorpio Sun, positioned exactly at the empty corner of Diana’s troublesome T-square, could have supplied all the strength and stability she needed to steady her nerves and make her whole again. In the event, it probably made things even worse, causing her to see him as manipulative and controlling, and emphasizing the vast chasm between his royal ego and her emotional needs.
With rumors rife as early as 1985 that serious conflicts were brewing among the couple, it wasn’t until 1993 that they officially separated, when two monster transits of Saturn and Pluto to that fateful line-up between Charles’s Sun and Diana’s T-Square finally busted their faltering marriage apart.
Now at last both were free to move on, and when in April 2005, some seven years after Diana’s tragic death, Charles eventually fulfilled his heart’s desire and made Camilla his new wife, at least there seemed to be some kind of happy ending to this star-crossed love triangle. Pity about all the heartbreak along the way.
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